Notice your ‘firsts’

Do you remember the first time you flew on an airplane?

These are the types of ‘firsts’ we never forget – we’re either full of excitement or nervousness.

April is Stress Awareness Month and we are asking when experiencing your ‘firsts’ do you find them effortful or effortless?

  • Maybe you’ve had a baby
  • Started a new career
  • Started at a new school
  • On a new diet
  • Living in a new place
  • Left a career
  • Over whelmed by the volume of things you have to do

What we’re aware of is that whether you find it effortful or effortless it is your choice. If the story you’re telling yourself is ‘it’s going to be hard’ then it always will be – because that’s what you believe.

We all love to indulge in telling our stories, why something is difficult, complicated, tough and gruelling – equally what if we believe it will be easy, simple, straightforward and effortless? What could happen then?

Wherever you are in your story we encourage you to be kind to yourself, become more aware about how you approach your ‘firsts’ and consciously choose whether you want your experience to be effortful or effortless.

It really is your choice.

 

Neets, Carol & Neena
Collaborators
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If it’s not scheduled it’s not real

This is one of Marie Forleo’s Productivity Tips ‘If it’s not scheduled it’s not real’. It took me a while to really understand what this meant, mainly because I consider myself to be a planned person – if it’s not in my diary, it’s not happening.

Today I clearly understand what it means and it’s helped me finish off something I’ve been working on for a while – a daily planner.

I created a daily planner because I’ve been wondering where the time goes, I have a list of things to get done and never enough time in the day. I’ve read books about productivity, listened to podcasts and even attended old school time management courses so where was I going wrong?

Here’s what I realised.

I wasn’t scheduling everything in my diary – what I mean is, I didn’t plan in travel time for meetings or appointments, I just knew what time I had to leave and get back. I didn’t plan in phone calls, I just knew that at some point that day I would make those calls. What this meant was I would look at my diary and think I only have one meeting today – when in reality by the time I had travelled to the meeting, had the meeting and travelled back, it could take six hours of my time! And that’s where the time was going, it just wasn’t scheduled in.

The daily planner helps me to be more productive and realistic about where I spend my time. Here’s how I use it:

  1. Every morning I fill in the planner for the day ahead. I don’t do it the night before as I can become pre-occupied with what needs to happen the next day and not sleep well.
  2. I make sure I include travel time, phone calls, etc. – so I can actually see how much time I have free.
  3. I write down the three must do things for that day (my lists are normally long but that doesn’t help me focus – it just makes me feel like I’ve failed and haven’t accomplished much) and I PLAN those into my day!
  4. I make sure I keep the planner visible on my desk and not buried under paperwork.
  5. Under the notes section – I write things I need to do if I have time or things that come up during the day that I may need to carry forward to the next day.
  6. I write something inspirational for me – it might be something like FOCUS! or a quote that makes me smile through the day.
  7. I love doodling, so I use the space at the bottom for just that!
  8. Lastly, the next morning I make sure I transfer the things over from the notes section that I need to do that day.

It’s a simple tool to use.

Feel free to download the daily planner and see if it helps you achieve more and remember ‘if it’s not scheduled it’s not real’.

 

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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Where are you placing your attention?

A lot of you will have heard words along these lines. In fact anyone working on their own self development has a version of this to help them raise their self awareness.

Today I had a conversation with my colleague Neena Speding about what ‘where you place your attention matters’ means to me. Interestingly it means something different to both of us.

For me, I’ve come to realise and accept that I have a full life and diary. This means I can easily become distracted by interruptions, after all I am a people person and love those moments when I really connect with people. Great for me and them, not so good for my accountant who is waiting for me to complete my spreadsheet.

As I get older I know that if I want to get anything done I need to focus and give whatever I’m doing my full and undivided attention.

I have become an advocate of doing one thing at a time. This is taking some getting used to as I was a big fan of multi-tasking – I thought I could do everything and be everywhere all at the same time. In reality I was setting myself up to fail and disappoint everyday and that’s not how I wanted to live my life.

So, where I place my attention matters hugely depending on what I’m doing – now that I’m practising placing my attention on one thing and one person at a time I seem to get more done.

Where are you placing your attention?

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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Thought for today…

Sometimes life can feel overwhelming.

Whatever you’re dealing with, instead of looking at it as one big impossible unachievable time-consuming thing, break it down into small steps and my recommendation is the smaller the step the better.

Then, take a small step everyday.

Remember one small step is better than no step all.

 

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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The space in between

You know what you want and what you need to do to get it.

You also know what you don’t want.

So, where do you spend most of your time? 

Do you get stuck in and go about making happen what you want?

Or do you spend a lot of time thinking about what you don’t want?

Or do you spend your time in the space in between?

I recently discovered what I’m calling ‘the space in between’ when I decided to finally lose some weight.

For me it’s the space where I spend a lot of time thinking about what I want AND yet doing very little about it. There’s a lot of talk, a lot of planning and buying new notebooks to write things down, there’s research and then pulling it all together. And then…nothing!

What stops me from making it happen, from taking the steps I know I need to and getting what I want?

Here are my top eight:

  1. The thought that it’s going to be difficult or complicated
  2. The thought that it will take me ages to get it
  3. The thought that I will make a fool of myself
  4. The thought that I will fail
  5. The thought that I need to think about it some more
  6. The thought that it won’t be perfect
  7. The thought that I can magically manifest it
  8. In reality am I just interested and not committed?

Think about something you want – maybe you’ve wanted it for a long time and think about what you need to do to get it. Do any of my eight realisations apply to you?

I do know that the best way to get what I want is to make it happen, take some action, get started and move on from the space in between. To help me make a shift and get going I’m using The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins  who says,

“The moment you feel yourself hesitate (when you know you should do something) start counting backward 5-4-3-2-1, then GO. The Rule is a proven form of metacognition. When you use it, you shift mental gears, interrupt your habit of overthinking and awaken your pre-frontal cortex – making change easy. The rule acts as a starting ritual”.

So here goes, 5-4-3-2-1 I’m pressing the publish button!

 

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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Books, books, books

Recently we’ve been reading a lot and sharing what we’ve discovered.

This got us thinking, what are you reading at the moment?

And if you love what you’re reading let us know why and we will add it to our list.

“Reading is escape, and the opposite of escape”
Nora Ephron

 

Neets, Carol & Neena
Collaborators
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Your journey in 2018

  • What do you want to see and experience along the way?
  • Who is travelling with you?
  • What are you really looking forward to?
  • How do you want to feel?

I have decided wherever my road takes me, the journey is going to be an easy one. Easy is my word for 2018.

After all it’s easy if I think it is.

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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A question…

What are you buying yourself for Christmas?

Gifts are a sign of love, affection and thoughtfulness and we shop with everyone else in mind.

So what about us?

Our fun idea – add your name to your Christmas present list and think about what you would like, buy it, wrap it and put it under the tree and enjoy on Christmas day – after all you’re just as important as everyone else in your life.

Have a fantastic Christmas and see you online in 2018.

We’re off to the shops!

Neets, Carol & Neena
Collaborators
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