Your journey in 2018

  • What do you want to see and experience along the way?
  • Who is travelling with you?
  • What are you really looking forward to?
  • How do you want to feel?

I have decided wherever my road takes me, the journey is going to be an easy one. Easy is my word for 2018.

After all it’s easy if I think it is.

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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Learning to expect the unexpected

We spend our lives trying to be prepared for whatever may come our way.

We like being in control.

We want to know what’s going to happen and when & we think we know what’s going to happen and when too.

We’re holding on so tightly that we’re scared to let go.

There is no room for the unexpected.

And then for some reason if the unexpected does happen we’re thrown off course; physically, mentally and emotionally.

My question is what if we let go? what if we expect the unexpected?

I’ve being learning to ‘expect the unexpected’ everyday for the past five weeks since I attended Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Progressive Workshop. It has taken effort, awareness, slowing down and a lot of catching my thoughts (I have had some thoughts make a run for it and escape lol).

I realised at the workshop that I was living my life on repeat, doing the same things, living within the rules I’d created to keep me safe (also know as ‘I know what I like’) and it was time to change, to fire new neural pathways, meet new people, try new things and just NOT KNOW.

So far, in the unexpected for me there has been fun, play, surprise, opportunity, love, vulnerability, a different perspective, spontaneity, support, possibility, awareness and lots of laughter.

I think I may be finally ready for Game of Thrones!

Who would you like to join me in my quest to expect the unexpected?

 

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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It’s not about perfection – it’s about correction

Is my new favourite personal mantra especially when I’m learning something new or focusing on improving something in my life.

I’ve realised that perfection is overrated, it’s the enemy of getting things done and more than that it stops us living fully and enjoying life.

I’m embarrassed to say that I was one of those people who gave ‘being a perfectionist’ as my flaw in interviews back in the 80’s thinking I sounded cool and hard working.

Eventually I woke up to how limiting and joyless striving for perfection is. And still, under stress, I default to trying too hard to get it right – hence this mantra is on a yellow sticky note above my desk.

This phrase keeps me going because it gives me permission to do the new thing less than perfectly and to expect to fail a few times before I start to get the hang of it. I have learnt that any change that matters requires me to get out of my comfort zone – to actually do something differently, and that always feels uncomfortable.

It reminds me that making mistakes is part of the process of learning because only by experiencing what doesn’t work and making a correction do I grow and improve.

Awareness is everything and when I notice I’m off course, I’m kinder to myself and by not wasting time on self judgment I can correct what’s not working and move on.

Life seems less serious too, lighter and more fun – like a series of personal experiments by my crazy inner scientist!

Try it out for yourself.

What mantra will you create to help you move forward this week?

“You don’t learn to walk by following rules. You learn by doing, and by falling over.” Sir Richard Branson

Carol Conway CPCC
Coach & Collaborator
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Is there only one way?

We all have regular habits and ways of doing things.

Whether it’s the way you brush your teeth, the route you take to work or how you plan a project.

Today we’ve been discussing the benefits of more than one way?

Think about it, you have something you want to achieve or get done, there’s your way – the way you normally do it and then there’s my way and how I normally do it – it’s more than likely that both will be different. And yet both will achieve the result you want.

So, is there really only one way?

 

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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Three reasons why everyone needs a coach

It was 2004 when I first worked with a coach. I’m proud to say my coach at that time was Gabriella Goddard (the founder of www.brainsparker.com).

I still remember how I felt at every session, one-hour to focus on me and what I wanted to discuss – it was a breather from my corporate life! The sessions helped me to make sense of my scrambled brain and life, and I realised over time that they weren’t that scrambled at all.

Gabriella had my back and that felt so safe and comforting. It allowed me to open up, really get clear, find out new things about myself and actually get stuff done. She kept me on track and moving forward.

I was so impressed with my coaching and the results I achieved that I decided to train as a Co-Active Coach®

Today I’m lucky enough to work with two wonderful colleagues at eight circles and we all agree that these are the three things we do for our clients and why we feel everyone needs a coach at some point in their life.Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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Dear Alcohol – a poem

Dear Alcohol…

You silently crept into my life when I was so young, using your seductive powers to lure my mum

Slowly but surely her time spent with you grew, till she’d not enough strength to say goodbye to you

You were stuck to her side like glue when I needed her most; I felt powerless … I just felt like a Ghost

As the years went by I struggled to see, how she would rather spend time with you than with me

You hurt her badly, she was under your spell, you had somehow bewitched her and, she couldn’t tell

Then one day I had a family of my own, it was then I decided to let you both go and disown

I said to my mum “its me or your friend” I can no longer stand by to see how this ends

During this time little did I know, your other friend was creeping into my life and secretly starting to show

He crept from the shadows so I couldn’t see; starting also to lure my dear husband from me

As the years rolled on the strain was immense, I felt so alone as I sat on the fence

I would watch you play together, games that were cruel, having fun and laughter, I felt again such a fool

As your friendship with my husband then started to grow, I knew I was powerless to get you to go

When you were around my heart felt like a stone, till I could no longer cope and had to leave home

Now I look back over my life and see, just how much of my loved ones you’ve taken from me

I will never forget you now you’re both gone, but at last I feel free I now also move on, to a more joyous life where I know I will find, those that truly Love me, having left you behind.

 

SAH
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