You know what you want and what you need to do to get it.
You also know what you don’t want.
So, where do you spend most of your time?
Do you get stuck in and go about making happen what you want?
Or do you spend a lot of time thinking about what you don’t want?
Or do you spend your time in the space in between?
I recently discovered what I’m calling ‘the space in between’ when I decided to finally lose some weight.
For me it’s the space where I spend a lot of time thinking about what I want AND yet doing very little about it. There’s a lot of talk, a lot of planning and buying new notebooks to write things down, there’s research and then pulling it all together. And then…nothing!
What stops me from making it happen, from taking the steps I know I need to and getting what I want?
Here are my top eight:
- The thought that it’s going to be difficult or complicated
- The thought that it will take me ages to get it
- The thought that I will make a fool of myself
- The thought that I will fail
- The thought that I need to think about it some more
- The thought that it won’t be perfect
- The thought that I can magically manifest it
- In reality am I just interested and not committed?
Think about something you want – maybe you’ve wanted it for a long time and think about what you need to do to get it. Do any of my eight realisations apply to you?
I do know that the best way to get what I want is to make it happen, take some action, get started and move on from the space in between. To help me make a shift and get going I’m using The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins who says,
“The moment you feel yourself hesitate (when you know you should do something) start counting backward 5-4-3-2-1, then GO. The Rule is a proven form of metacognition. When you use it, you shift mental gears, interrupt your habit of overthinking and awaken your pre-frontal cortex – making change easy. The rule acts as a starting ritual”.
So here goes, 5-4-3-2-1 I’m pressing the publish button!
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