A question…

What are you buying yourself for Christmas?

Gifts are a sign of love, affection and thoughtfulness and we shop with everyone else in mind.

So what about us?

Our fun idea – add your name to your Christmas present list and think about what you would like, buy it, wrap it and put it under the tree and enjoy on Christmas day – after all you’re just as important as everyone else in your life.

Have a fantastic Christmas and see you online in 2018.

We’re off to the shops!

Neets, Carol & Neena
Collaborators
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Learning to expect the unexpected

We spend our lives trying to be prepared for whatever may come our way.

We like being in control.

We want to know what’s going to happen and when & we think we know what’s going to happen and when too.

We’re holding on so tightly that we’re scared to let go.

There is no room for the unexpected.

And then for some reason if the unexpected does happen we’re thrown off course; physically, mentally and emotionally.

My question is what if we let go? what if we expect the unexpected?

I’ve being learning to ‘expect the unexpected’ everyday for the past five weeks since I attended Dr. Joe Dispenza’s Progressive Workshop. It has taken effort, awareness, slowing down and a lot of catching my thoughts (I have had some thoughts make a run for it and escape lol).

I realised at the workshop that I was living my life on repeat, doing the same things, living within the rules I’d created to keep me safe (also know as ‘I know what I like’) and it was time to change, to fire new neural pathways, meet new people, try new things and just NOT KNOW.

So far, in the unexpected for me there has been fun, play, surprise, opportunity, love, vulnerability, a different perspective, spontaneity, support, possibility, awareness and lots of laughter.

I think I may be finally ready for Game of Thrones!

Who would you like to join me in my quest to expect the unexpected?

 

Neets
Coach, Communicator & Collaborator
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Make time to listen

This week I’m recommending a wonderful book I’ve been reading by Nancy Kline called Time to Think in which she talks about the importance of creating a thinking environment because ‘the quality of our attention determines the quality of other people’s thinking.’ It’s powerful and reminds me what a super skill listening is.

As a coach and trainer I’m often told I’m a great listener. And, yes it’s true I am pretty good at it, but reading the book I have become aware how often I forget to listen when I’m hanging out with my friends and family. Many times I catch myself falling short – like when I realise I’m multi-tasking on the phone to my friend, diving in with my advice on her problem or interrupting my husband to share my story about the time that thing he’s describing happened to me too.

This results in a situation where they tell me that ‘no you don’t understand’ or ‘I just need you to listen’ and they’re right – I feel the same way too on receiving unwanted advice. These are the people I care about the most and I want to give them the respect and space they deserve by really listening.

Do you catch yourself listening to answer or add your comments too?

I have noticed that when I let go of the impulse to jump in and talk, conversations are more relaxed. I’m learning fascinating new things about people just by being present and paying attention. They feel heard, sometimes that’s all that was needed and often they find their own answer in the process.

When was the last time you really listened to someone when they were speaking? Challenge yourself to listen to their story, listen to their emotions and really hear them. Be prepared to be surprised.

 

Carol Conway CPCC
Coach & Collaborator
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